February. Always the month where we decide to get serious about the New Year’s resolutions we made. We take stock of our lives and develop a list of changes we want to make during the year, often regarding improvement of the self. The most popular resolution involves improving physical well-being: eat healthy food, lose weight, exercise more, eat better, drink less alcohol, quit smoking, stop biting nails, and get rid of old bad habits.
While these are all great choices to make, they begin with a seed thought that something is not good enough, a part (or parts) of you needs fixing or changing. A 2007 study conducted by the University of Bristol involving 3000 participants showed that 88% of those who set New Year’s Resolutions failed. So, first we begin with the belief that there is something about us not good enough and then we fail in our attempt to improve it. Now we are a failure on top of everything! What a way to start the New Year!
Let me clarify something here: I am not advocating an unhealthy lifestyle. I am not suggesting that you don’t make changes in your life to help ensure your happiness, body, mind, and soul. What I am suggesting that you change is your thoughts about those changes and why you want to make them.
The first step in ensuring your success in making the desired changes is to know that nothing that we do, or don’t do, can make us any more perfect than we already are authentically. Know that. Repeat that, meditate on that until you know it at your core. Your spirit, your energy, the truth of who you are is divine. You know this. As you read this, your body resonates with this knowledge. I’ve used the word “know” 6 times in this paragraph alone to stress its importance.
Secondly, choose your words wisely. Not only the words you speak aloud but those you speak to yourself. Find words that are positive. Words like lose, less, quit, rid, etc. speak of inadequacy and are of a lower vibrational frequency. For instance, if you would naturally say, “I want to lose weight,” change that to, “I want to be/feel healthy.” Worded in that way your focus is on what you want to gain. Rather than, “I want to quit smoking,” try, “I want to breathe better.” With just a little thought, we can change all of our words to those that focus on abundance and positivity.
Our words and thoughts have incredible power. Without even being aware, our thoughts control our energy every day. This is because we have not learned to monitor them, let alone change them. Try saying one of the previous examples. Say the first, non-positive phrase and see how your body reacts to the words. Do you feel your stomach lurch a little? Do you have a sense of sadness? How is your self esteem? Does the task seem insurmountable? Now try the second, positive phrasing. Again, how does your body react? Can you feel the sadness lift? Do you feel the change has now become doable?
Next, repeat your goals daily. Some days may require that your repeat your goals several times. Remind yourself of what you want and not what you don’t want. Be gentle with yourself. Set smaller goals with your large goal being the desired end result. Use positive affirmations like, “It is easy for me to make healthy food choices. I mediate easily. I am good at saving money. I am ready for a healthy relationship.” Initially, these affirmations might sound silly and untrue. Just keep in mind that you haven’t been speaking facts in the past but rather beliefs.
Buddha said, “All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think, we become.” Sit with that a moment. Seriously. Stop reading and let that resonate: What we think, we become. What would you like to bring into your life? How can you begin thinking like it has already arrived?
The New Year has begun! What a great time to begin a new way of thinking, a new way of being in this world.
Happy Abundant 2015!
Michelle Griffin is a contributing writer and has been featured in several publications. Her passion is pursuing the connection between the spiritual, metaphysical, and paranormal philosophies. She is the owner of Through The Veil Productions.